The same thing you’re avoiding the one thing you need in order to move forward to create the life you crave.
Discomfort and moving outside of your comfort zone is the magic key that you need to change your life.
Emotional eating, isolating, not showing up for yourself – are all ways that you are staying in your current comfort zone.
Here’s the rub – Your current comfort zone isn’t exactly comfortable but it’s familiar.
In this episode, I’m sharing how your wet blanket of discomfort is keeping you on the yo-yo diet/body hate shame cycle. Plus, the type of discomfort from a place of self-love that’s needed to become Irresistible You.
This is why you can start a new diet with no problem…and then a week later you fall off the wagon when your husband takes you out to dinner. You don’t want to feel the discomfort of not ordering your go-to smothered cheese fry dish.
This is why you binge eat at 8pm when all the kids go to bed and you finally have a bit of free time all to yourself. All those thoughts swirling around in your brain about how worthless you are get louder because the day is over. You’d rather shove a bag of chips down your throat and netflix and chill and not deal with that discomfort.
After trying on everything in your closet, you decide to cancel plans with your friends. Nothing fits and if it does fit, you look way too fat and you feel so incredibly uncomfortable in your own skin. It’s easier to not feel the discomfort of that and instead stay home and isolate yourself – which just triggers more binge eating alone.
You’ve gained weight and know you need to get outdoors and walk. But, the thought of getting dressed in your workout clothes that are too tight is unbearable. You can’t walk more than 5 minutes without feeling miserable. Discomfort.
See, what you’re on the quest for is to create a life without discomfort. A life without pain. You think that suffering your weight to goal weight is the missing key. You think that finally becoming thin is going to unlock a beautiful life free of discomfort and pain.
That’s where you’re wrong, boo.
So, you blame all the diets, workouts, and other people for the reason why you don’t like where you are in your own life.
NEWSFLASH: It’s not the diets!
The minute things get uncomfortable, you quit.
The minute you have to deal with your own bullshit thoughts, you quit.
The minute you can’t be entitled to your cupcakes and whatever you want, when you want it, you quit.
Then, you throw the pity party of the year and step into the role that’s comfortable – the victim.
This cycle repeats itself over and over – probably for most of your life.
The same thing you’re avoiding is the magic key to unlock the life you crave.
Discomfort and pain is part of the process.
When you can truly understand and accept that, you’re ready for the transformation that I can offer you inside of the Irresistible You program.
The irony here is that you’re already living with a great deal of pain and discomfort. The yo-yo diet/body hate shame cycle IS pain and discomfort.
Let’s talk about the difference between the two.
Your Current Level of Discomfort (The Wet Blanket):
- Beating yourself up with all the inner fat bitch chatter.
- Adding pain on top – that’s the guilt and shame. (overeating, regretting things you say, not standing up for yourself b/c you lack confidence.)
- Isolating yourself.
- Not showing up for yourself because you’re uncomfortable not stepping into the power of who you are.
- Feeling paranoid about your body and creating bullshit stories and therefore showing up in baggy clothes and not practicing self-care.
Discomfort Needed to Become Irresistible You:
- Addressing the inner fat bitch chatter head on and changing the conversation with yourself.
- Taking each overeat and experience as a learning opportunity instead of piling on unnecessary guilt and shame.
- Taking imperfect action and putting yourself out there instead of staying home. Creating a relationship with yourself.
- Being in the moment now – even when you don’t have it all figured out yet. Deciding to be mindful and present.
- Dressing for the body you have now.
The current discomfort doesn’t push you forward…it keeps you stuck on the yo-yo diet/body hate shame cycle. The future discomfort is what’s going to create the bridge to the life you crave.
How do you know if it’s the right type of discomfort. Ask yourself:
- Is it for my future self?
- Is it coming from a place of self-love or self-hate?
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