How much money have you wasted on diets? What about the time and energy you’ve spent looking for the next shiny diet? I wasted so much money, time, and energy on dieting gimmicks looking for a magic solution to give me the perfect body. I’ve also spent a ton of money, time, and energy on myself to figure it all out. There’s power in investing in you. I would not be where I am today otherwise. I want you to start thinking about all of this in a different way because if you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll never get the transformation you crave. I’m sharing a flashback of my journey in this episode with you so that you can see the mental shift and the investment that I had to make in order to stop waiting for the weight.
I vividly remember starting a fresh new notebook journal back in 6th grade. On the first page I wrote that this was the beginning of my new life. I wrote about how I was going to lose weight. I also wrote about how nobody at school would recognize me and everyone would want to be my friend. I equated thinness with popularity. This innocent notebook turned into years of dieting; spending thousands of dollars in my lifetime on quick-fix diets.
I was on the search for the next big thing that would help me lose the weight and get to goal. I was determined that getting to my goal weight would give me automatic happiness and that I didn’t deserve it until I saw that magic number on the scale. I convinced myself that the process had to be hard. A sacrifice. It had to hurt and feel miserable. I mean, how else could you lose weight? I set rigid parameters around what would happen during a diet. I would go on a “last supper” binge for days before starting a new diet on Monday.
It was exhausting.
And expensive. I wasted thousands of dollars on 3am diet infomercials, gym memberships that I rarely used, workout videos, magic gels, scary pills, and so much more. Not to mention, how much money I wasted on FOOD and buying clothes in a million different sizes. You feel me?!
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I lost and gained weight more times than I can count. Inevitably, I would eventually fall off the wagon. Each time that made me feel like more of a failure. I thought I was broken. I fell into the victim mindset that my life is just too hard.
Even when I got close to my goal weight, I would self-sabotage my efforts. I still didn’t feel good enough when everyone would notice my weight loss. I didn’t understand how they could think those positive things about me if I was still technically overweight.
Then, in 2011 I slid into a deep, dark depression. The worst one yet. The thing is when you’re a binge eater, depression comes with a heaping side of weight gain. It’s a double edged sword because the weight gain only adds to the depression which leads to more binge eating. It’s a vicious cycle.
Then one day I started googling. I started getting curious. I started to google ways to end it all. This scared the shit out of me. It wasn’t that I no longer wanted to live. It’s that I didn’t want to live this this anymore. I couldn’t do it. I was completely drained from the constant cycle of gaining and losing weight. I was sick and tired of hating my body. I was sick and tired of using food as a drug. I was sick and tired of weight being the center of all my problems and successes.
I could look at any picture from my life and tell you how much I weighed, what I was feeling about my body, what diet I was on, and how I was doing with it.
I WAS DONE.
I knew I needed help. I knew I needed to do something different this time that wasn’t just another diet. I knew that I needed to get to the root cause so that I could stop this vicious cycle. I started to see the cycles I was repeating.
I didn’t know how I was going to do it but I knew that I needed to go on a journey different from anything else I’d ever done.
So, I called a therapist as step one. Therapy helped me to connect the dots to my present behavior to my past. We did EMDR to work though some of those past scenarios. It was mentally and emotionally exhausting. I would get out of a session and just crash. I couldn’t move, talk, or think.
During this time, I tried several different approaches with my weight loss. I tried intuitive eating. I gained a ton of weight. This experience taught me that I need accountability with a measuring and tracking my food. I tried going scale free. I gained weight. This experience taught me that I need the accountability of weighing-in weekly. I learned how to see the scale as a tool in my toolbox and not an indicator of my worthiness.
I went back to Weight Watchers. I realized that I need the accountability that the program offers. This program is how I live my life in terms of eating. I never feel like I’m on a diet. I’m not saying that WW is what you need. You have to find the program that works for you. Hey, maybe it’s intuitive eating that actually works for you.
In 2015, I invested in a personal coach with Weight Watchers. This extra layer of support and accountability is exactly what I need. I have the same coach to this day and I couldn’t imagine my life or this journey without her!
I spent money on personal development books and training.
I started figuring it all out but I was doing it my way. At my own pace. I dropped the timelines, the excuses, and the societal expectations.
Something really beautiful was brewing in the background. This was along with a lifetime of spending countless dollars on diets, gym memberships, magic creams, and scary pills had laid the foundation for what I was put on this Earth to do. To use these experiences to help other women do the same. This is how my Irresistible You framework was created, tested, and proven.
I finally felt happy. I finally had appreciation for my body now…on the journey. I finally saw this as a journey. Not a one way destination.
As of this post, I’ve lost 60 lbs and I feel more confident and secure in my body than I ever have. I know with total certainty this is from the framework I’ve developed. None of this would be possible for me if I didn’t go through all the other ups and downs, trial and errors.
So, why am I telling you all of this? Because I know what it feels like to be considered the “fat girl.” I know what it’s like to feel like a prisoner in your own body. I know how debilitating it is. I don’t want any other woman to ever have to feel that way. I want every single woman that struggles with weight and loving herself to know that it’s not another diet that’s going to fix you.
I imagine you’ve probably wasted a ton of money on those 3am gimmick diets.
Do you know the definition of insanity? Doing the same thing over and over but expecting different results. Let me rephrase that. Repeating the same mistakes over and over (that are disguised as something different) but expecting different results is enough to make you feel crazy. That’s what the yo-yo diet/body hate shame cycle does.
None of this is actually your fault. You’ve been conditioned to believe that this is the only way.
There’s a reason none of these diets and magic gels have worked for you.
They are only addressing the psychical weight. This is what you think the problem is. This is what you think is wrong with you.
When in fact, the physical weight is just a manifestation of the emotional shit storm going on inside of you.
Diets don’t address this. Diets don’t address self hatred. They feed off of it getting you to believe that your weight is the reason everything sucks in your life. You’ve even convinced yourself that’s the real problem.
Diets don’t teach you how to stop using food as a drug. They don’t teach you how to gain confidence in your journey. They don’t teach you how to fix your mindset.
That’s where they get it wrong. That’s what my program addresses. You have to be willing to let go of the old way of thinking and embrace this new way. You have to willing to invest in yourself. Not just money…but the time and energy that is required to actually transform.
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I can help you with that! My proven Irresistible You framework has helped lots of other women besides myself. I want to extend a hand and offer that same help to you. The program may not be for you but, isn’t it worth finding out if it is right for you?
Which is why I want to personally invite you to a free Confidence Clarity Call, so you can break free of the yo-yo diet/body hate shame cycle, and truly look and feel irresistible in your own skin…at any size or weight.
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