Do you watch Oprah’s Life Class on OWN? I do and I’m totally obsessed! I spent a good chunk of my Sunday catching up on missed episodes! On episode 2, Tony Robbins spoke of “divorcing your story.” That really got me thinking . . .

Watch the video here in case you missed it:

Tony Robbins’ 3 Ways to Effect Success

Tony Robbins, a self-help author and motivational speaker, reveals three ways you can effect success: have a strategy, change your story and develop a quality state. Plus, find out why he says some people need to divorce their stories so they can marry the truth.

What the hell do you mean, divorce my story?!

I struggled with this concept at first. I thought, but my story is who I am! It’s what got me where I am today! It defines me!

Wrong. Wrong. Wrong.

That’s just the very philosophy that is holding me back.

My life experiences have shaped me into who I am right now at this present moment. That is my life story. But in telling my story, that is where the negative beliefs are manifested. Our thoughts become our beliefs, our beliefs become actions, our actions and actions become habits.

If you don’t think that you become your thoughts, then ask yourself this:

Why am I not where I want to be?

What have I done to get there?

What is the story I always tell myself?”

Do you like your answers?

I don’t like my answers.


You can still have your story but you’ve got to rewrite the way you tell it.

My biggest question for myself has always been:

“If I want to lose the weight so bad, why do I always fail and revert into old habits?”

Well, I thought about the story I tell . . . .

I’ve been overweight since early childhood. I was singled out, bullied, and shamed for being the “fat” kid. Since 7th grade, I’ve been “dieting” on everything from Deal a Meal to Weight Watchers to weight loss pills. I always feel that life will begin or be perfect once I’m at goal weight. I’ve been able to lose the weight when I put my mind to it (usually only motivated b/c of an event, wedding, vacation, etc). I always get to a certain weight and then the motivation seems to wear off and I get “stuck” at that weight. Whenever anything stressful comes around, I turn to food and next thing I know, I’ve gained back the weight I lost. Then, I’m consumed by the guilt, shame, embarrassment, and feeling like a failure. I constantly tell myself that I’ve failed, I’ve done it again, and I’ll always be fat and only able to achieve only so much success with losing weight.

I’ve been telling this story over and over and over, for as long as I can remember. It’s intensified over the years because the more I tell it, the harder the weight loss becomes. Well, if you become what you believe, no wonder I’m not achieving the weight loss I really want!!!

This is the story that keeps me fat.

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Marrying the Truth

Tony Robbins talked about “divorcing the story and marrying the truth.”

What is Your Truth?

Marrying the truth is about turning those negative beliefs into positive, true thoughts. I know it sounds so cheesy and cliché but believe me when I tell you that if you don’t “lose the weight in your head”, you’ll never lose the physical weight.  If you’ve been yo-yo dieting for years, you really need to think about this.

So, as of today, I’m taking that old story to divorce court and eloping with the truth.

I’ll be back soon to blog about what my truth is. Stay tuned!

I’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment below and tell me if your story is holding you back and how you will (or have) divorced it to marry the truth!


“You must begin to think of yourself as becoming the person you want to be.”
~David Viscott~


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