In this week’s Irresistible You podcast episode, we’re going to revisit your new years weight loss goals, how you’re wasting time with food, and how you’re allowing food to own your future. Every time you say yes to the yo-yo diet/body hate shame cycle, you’re saying no to your future, your loved ones, and your life.
The first month of the year is almost over. Let’s revisit your weight loss goals because I know you set some. Here’s what I most often see happen. You start out the year feeling motivated and excited. You have the new car smell around whatever diet it is that you’e chasing.
Mid-way through the month, real life slaps you in the face. You’re tired, stressed out, and you don’t feel like doing the work. Why? Because it’s hard. What you’re actually trying to do is to reverse a lifetime of beliefs about yourself by deflecting all of it with some bullshit Instagram diet. The diet is unrealistic and has bullshit expectations that no human is ever going to be able to sustain. So, you use that diet as your excuse as to why you’re not losing weight and why you always seem to fall off the wagon. It’s not about the diet and it never has been. It’ not about having time to go to the gym. It’ not about having support from your husband or your friends.
Bottom line: It’s about your relationship with yourself.
It ultimately comes down to you putting food …the rituals you have with food..as a priority over your LIFE and your future. You’re wasting time with food. It’s about you allowing food to own you and your future. We have to change this belief!
Now, I know it’s not just about the food. The food is simply a distraction from dealing with real life…from dealing with the really hard stuff. The problem is that the food turns into emotional eating. Emotional eating turns into weight gain. Weight gain turns into you not liking what you see in the mirror. Then, that body hate turns into an infection into every pore of your life. You manifest that body hate into all the areas of your life so that you don’t have to fully show up and be seen. You get so focused on the weight and how it’s ruining your life, that you stop living it. The color gets zapped out of your world and the screen is just black and white. You use excuses for why things are so hard for you, why it’s easy for everyone else—how they must b so lucky, you continue to play the victim, throwing the pity party of the year for why your life sucks.
It’s an easy cop out…instead of admitting the truth:
- “I’m not where I want to be because I’m scared of what it’s going to take”
- “I’m scared to be seen if I get the promotion.”
- “I’m scared to try and someone laughs at my version of trying and say that it’s not good enough.”
- “Sorry kids, I’m not too busy for you…I don’t wanna go to the pool with you because mama hates how she looks in a bathing suit.”
Each time, you go through this cycle and those excuses, you’re losing another day, another week, another month, another year off of your life. And it’s not just your life….it’s the life of your loved ones too.
But, Aimee I want this more than anything…I know what to do, I’m just not doing it.
I’ll tell you right now exactly why you say this. This is why you’re self-sabotaging. You would rather get instant gratification from the cake then to sit in your own thoughts and feelings. It’s the wet blanket of discomfort that feels oh so comfortable and familiar to you. There is a part of you that enjoys the wet blanket and enjoys the process of searching for the next fix. It’s the fantasy of who you’ll become once the weight comes off.
You’re still going after old habits, looking for a quick fix. The quick fix is sacrificing your future self.
How Does the Yo-Yo Diet/Body Hate Shame Cycle Stop?
When you decide to build a relationship with yourself. When you decide to stop being in denial while you are zombie walking around with the food and the excuses like an entitled fat girl. When you decide to stop using busy as a badge of honor and putting everyone’s needs before your own. These are some of the ways that I built a relationship with myself and how I teach students at Irresistible YOU.
- Rewrite the rules that you’ve created for yourself.
- Make confidence queen by taking imperfect action
- Feed your soul by getting outdoors, doing things that make you happy, by yourself.
- Be in the moment in the body that you have now.
- Take pride in your appearance and dress for the body you have now…not the one you want.
It’s time for you to stop wasting time on stress, the yo-yo diet/body hate shame cycle, and doing things that suck the happiness and energy right out of your life. No more excuses. No more starting over tomorrow or Monday. Food is not worth a mediocre life. Food is not worth hating yourself. Food is not worth sacrificing your future self. and future success. Food is not worth losing time off your life.
Next time you want to say yes to the food, repeat this: I’m in control. I get to choose what goes in my mouth. I deserve better. I am better.
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Hi! I’m Aimee with 2 E’s. I'm a confidence coach that empowers women to love themselves by breaking down body image issues, so that they can lose the emotional weight and gain the confidence to look and feel irresistible...at any size.