Last week’s podcast episode was a huge hit and I received so many messages and comments about it. It sparked some great discussions and coaching inside of the Irresistible You client group too.  One of my dear and lovely clients said (and I’m paraphrasing),  “I am currently struggling with going down two journeys together (self love and weight loss). I just don’t know how to do them together. If I was in this same situation prior to taking this course I would have given up by now, but not the new me. I am showing up each and every day and not giving up. Doing the work. What I afraid of is because I am so new to irresistible you that I am not strong enough to take on both together. I am gaining the tools, but like I said earlier I still have a ways to go. But what if they are both just important. How do I handle it?”

Let’s stop referring to weight loss and self-love as two separate journeys. Here’s the thing: There is no weight loss….no lasting REAL weight loss without self-love. Weight loss that is real and life changing only comes from self-love. That’s why the yo-yo diet/body hate shame cycle never works.

Also, think about losing weight as more than just the physical weight loss. It’s also shedding all of the self-doubt about all the reasons why you’ve failed in the past, all the excuses why it’s never going to work, all the inner fat bitch chatter about how you’re not good enough if you don’t lose weight this week. ALL of that is part of your weight loss journey. You are just choosing to finally address ALL of the emotional weight along with the physical this time around.
They are not separate. Self love doesn’t show up because you just lose weight – it comes from the culmination of your actions. In this episode, we are going to break down what self-love really looks like and how you go from feeling fat and miserable to a woman that is willing to show up and create an unconditional loving relationship with herself. 
Are Weight Loss and Self Love Two Different Journeys?

Topics Discussed in This Episode:

  • Hating your way to goal weight is doing only one thing – weight loss. It’s selling yourself short of the life you really deserve.
  • There’s a misconception that if you just lose the weight, the confidence and self-love will come…except it doesn’t unless you’re intentional about creating an unconditional loving relationship with yourself.
  •  I know what you’re thinking. When you are busting at the seams, can’t breathe, feel awful about yourself, it feels like you just want to lose the weight as fast as possible and THEN worry about all of that other self-love stuff. Except that’s why you’re still fighting this beast. How many diets have you tried? How many times have you gained back the weight?
  • Throw out the self-inflicted timeline about when you “should” lose all the weight. Who really cares if it takes longer IF you never have to gain it back again b/c you’re also gaining the tools to drop the inner fat bitch, change the relationship with you, and to stop attaching your self-worth to what the scale says. This is so much more than “just’ weight loss.
  • We are so used to a quick fix. The shiny BS solution that promises 30 pounds in 30 days! BUT, what does that teach you? It teaches you all the same old BS thoughts you’ve had about yourself…that you’re only worthy when you’re losing weight FAST.
  • Practice showing up for yourself – do what you say you’re going to do.
  • Understand that the small things are THE things. Success is a culmination of all the small wins.
  • Failure is part of the process. Stop looking at this as a journey that needs to be perfect. There is no before and after. There is no start and stop. There is then and now. Quitting is the only thing that will make you fail. It’s the thought you have about the “over eat”, not the over eat.
  • Decide WHO you want to become. Not how much you want to weigh. What type of woman do you want to be? What kind of life do you want? How have you been hiding behind your weight?
  • Stop running away from discomfort or uncomfortable emotions. “Every time something bad happens, I fall off my diet.” It’s not about the food. It’s about you not being able to feel your emotions or thinking that emotions are this horrible thing. Emotions are a compass.
  • Change your inner dialogue because your thoughts are keeping you stuck. You need to drop the inner fat bitch chatter.

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