I set a goal last week to work on getting in 10,000 steps a day with my FitBit and I nailed it. That gave me a renewed confidence in myself that I CAN accomplish anything that I set my mind to. I found myself falling back into that negative place again this week and I had to snap myself back to reality. So, I did a mental detox and created a list of 10 things I’m letting go of so that I can continue to create irresistible life.
1. Putting My Self Last
Since becoming a new mom and working full-time, it’s pretty much become the norm as of lately that anything for myself comes last – if at all. This is making me really unhappy. I’ve realized that in order to work towards my weight loss and blogging goals, I have to get uncomfortable. With my new schedule which involves taking care of an almost one year old, I have to wake up earlier in the day. I hate early mornings but this is the only way right now. Those few extra hours in the early morning gives me alone time to workout, meditate, and get some blogging done before the sun comes up.
2. All or Nothing Thinking
This is a weakness and strength of mine. I have a tendency to be all or nothing when it comes to eating everything. This can stop me before I even get started. I think why try if I can’t give this 150%? Well, no more. It’s ok to try a little bit each day to chip away at your goals. If you have a binge why not just start over at the next meal? You don’t have to ruin the entire day. If you had a flat tire would you slash the other three?
3. Analysis Paralysis
Stop reading another book. Stop googling for your answer. You already have the answers. You know what you need to do and how to do it. Another day of planning isn’t going to propel you forward.
This goes hand-in-hand with analysis paralysis. This journey is never going to be perfect. You don’t magically wake up one morning and decide to change and then do everything perfectly for the rest of your life. No. It’s going to be messy. You’re going to binge again. You’re going to be unmotivated. It’s going to be far from perfect. That’s ok. Do like Elsa and let it go.
5. Fear of Failure
I’ve promised myself I’d “start over on Monday” so many times that I have begun to lose faith in myself. I’m afraid of my own promises. I’m afraid that I’ll let myself down. Again. I’m afraid to share my journey with you in a public forum. No more. Fear is actually really stupid. It’s so annoying because it can control every single action. I remember after watching my grandmother pass away right in front of me, I felt fearless. That fearlessness propelled me to go hard with my weight loss goals and my dreams. It really hit me that nothing matters. Nothing matters because we are ALL going to die. Who cares what someone thinks? Who cares if you take a chance and fail. WHO CARES! Life is too short to give into fear.
6. Negative Self Talk
If I had to be friends with my inner voice I would’ve bitch slapped that girl by now. She’s mean. That negative self talk actually from the fact that I’m a super self aware person. It became a defense mechanism from years of being bullied. If I could anticipate all the horrible things someone might say to me then it won’t sting as bad when they do. We all know it doesn’t actually work that way.
Just like my Dad always says, “an excuse is a reason for failure.” It’s true. Stop making excuses. Just stop.
8. Starting Over Tomorrow
There’s no more starting over. This is my life and my journey. This is forever. I might have some slip ups and bad days. I will have more good days than bad. It’s not about starting and stopping. It’s about perseverance while being on a journey.
9. Waiting for Weight
I’m far from my goal weight. I’m far from my goal body. But I’m not letting that stop me from enjoying life right now. Don’t wait for the weight. Be in the moment and enjoy who you are right now.
10. Not Appreciating the Journey
When I focus on my big picture goals it makes all of this so overwhelming. It makes it seem like I’ll never get there. Then the voice in my head tells me “why try when you have so far to go?” I’m going to learn to appreciate the journey again. I’m going to enjoy getting outdoors and working out. I’m going to enjoy taking my daughter and Chuy on walks. To them that moment is everything and then some. I want to have that same excitement for life again.
What are you going to let go of so that you can create an irresistible life?