I hate the word Plus Size. I hate the term, FULL figured.
I refuse to accept that I fit into any of these categories. The truth is, to the outside world I guess I do.
None of us should be categorized. If we categorized clothing by race it would be discrimination. What’s the difference?
This is the reason I have procrastinated on wedding dress shopping. I’ve had so many negative experiences as it relates to shopping and my size that I kept waiting until I lost more weight. The reality is I have to find it now. I can lose more weight between now and the wedding and have the dress altered. I have to find something I’m comfortable in no matter what. Even if I lose another 40 lbs, I will always be a curvy, hour glass shape. I will always have DD’s, wide hips, and thick thighs. That won’t change. I don’t even want that to change. I think curves are beautiful.
|I can’t get this dress out of my head. None of the salons here have it. I think I should find it and try it on. What do you think?|
My first dress shopping experience was amazing. My bridal consultant fit me into every gown and never had a negative comment about my size. She made me feel amazing.
My second experience was so much fun because there wasn’t a consultant and it was just me, my Maid of Honor, and my Mom. We had a blast.
Then, my 3rd experience happened. I decided to get into a shop at the last minute and try on some gowns. I went alone because it was quick and I wanted to get it over with and not intrude on anyone’s schedule.
I should have known better when the majority of the sample gowns were in sizes 8 and 10. In “real” dress life, that’s similar to a size 6/8 dress. Come on!!!! The consultant asked what I was looking for and I’m a girl who knows EXACTLY what I want! So, I proceed with:
- Ruching in the mid section and pulled to the side
- Shiny Satin
- Long train with embellishments/beading
- Beading at the bottom of the dress
- Sweetheart neck
- Bling, bling!
- NO ball gowns. They make me huge. My hips are already 46 inches. I don’t need to extenuate this area!
So, she gathers up a few gowns. Puts them in the dressing room. All but 2 of them are BALL GOWNS! To appease the little consultant, I tried them on. Um yea. I told you ball gowns are not my style.
The 2 “ruched” gowns did not fit properly (remember the “sample sizes”) so the little consultant probably thinks my only hope is the ball gown. Not true. I can wear any style I want thank you very much.
So, she brings this other ball gown style with a trumpet silhouette because she just knew this would be fantastic. I have to say the trumpet style is fierce. It hugs the body and shows off every curve. Very sexy!
But, this crazy bitch has the nerve to say something like this:
“Wow, this dress really shows off your figure. You’re a full figured woman, so this is a great fit for you. You CAN wear any style like the normal sizes as long as it’s in a plus size. I can’t believe how little your waist is and you look so tall now. See, this doesn’t make you wide like the other gown.”
“Being happy doesn’t mean everything is perfect. It mean you’ve decided to see beyond the imperfections.”